faq's
WHEN IS YOUR NEXT PARTY? HOW OFTEN DO YOU HOST?
Our aim is to host approximately every 4 weeks. See our events calender for future party dates and types.
ARE THERE ANY AGE RESTICTIONS?
Any mature minded adult is welcome (21+)
ARE THERE ANY BODY TYPE REQUIREMENTS?
Absolutely not. Everyone is welcome. We are non judgemental and non-discriminative. An all-inclusive party.
WHAT TIME SHOULD I ARRIVE?
ALL PARTIES EXCEPT GANG BANGS: We recommend arriving between 8.30 PM and 10.00PM to make the most of the night. To keep things running smoothly, we won’t be accepting any arrivals after 10.00 PM.
GANG BANGS: Further instructions on time of arrival will be given with confirmation on attendance
DRESSCODE: WHAT SHOULD I WEAR?
FOR ARRIVAL Smart Casual. No daggy shorts, trackpants or thongs please. Make a little effort. You will be walking maybe up to a couple of hundred metres in a residential street to get to the premise so please ensure appropriate attire to remain discreet
ONCE INSIDE: Make yourself sexy on arrival if you like. There are plenty of rooms for you to change into if you need. Michelle will be in sexy lingerie on arrival such as a babydoll or lingerie. Some people may choose to stay clothed until dress down which is ok too. Bring something you feel sexy in for dress down at least.
IS DRESSDOWN MANDATORY?
Absolutely not!
We encourage everyone to dress down at 9.30pm and predict most will, however we respect anyones choice not to dress down no explanations needed. Anyone who is not comfortable dressing down though must remain in the social area.
If you wish to be a watcher only or participate, you will be required to dress down. The people you are watching will be dressed down/naked and vulnerable so it is unfair if you are not doing the same.
WHAT ABOUT HYGEIENE AND PRESENTATION?
There will be a shower on premise, but please shower before you come and make yourself presentable. Shave or wax your bits if that's what you do. At least give a trim and tidy.
A little perfume or aftershave is always nice
WHERE SHOULD I LEAVE MY CLOTHING AND VALUABLES?
There are no lockers so you would be welcome to put your clothes and valuables in an empty cupboard somewhere but please note these are your responsibility. We also recommend you not bringing any valuables.
HOW DO YOU MANAGE POOR BEHAVIOUR?
As hosts we do have strategies in place to manage poor behaviour shall the situation arise to ensure all our guests remain safe.
We do ask if anyone is making you feel uncomfortable that you speak up immediately as we are unable to assist or manage this later in the evening or after the party,
WHAT IS YOUR REFUND POLICY?
DEPOSITS/PAYMENTS IN FULL: All deposits and full payments made prior to the event are non-refundable and cannot be transferred to future events.
CASH BALANCE/PAYMENTS AT THE DOOR: Once you have entered and paid at the door, no refunds will be issued under any circumstances. This policy covers situations where a guest may be asked to leave due to inappropriate behaviour or if they choose to leave early because the event does not meet their personal expectations.
EXCEPTION: Deposits paid by couples and single ladies for a Gang Bang are returned on arrival of the designated party date. No refund/Non transferable for no shows or cancellations.
EXCEPTION: In the event we must cancel the event, any deposits or full payments made will be fully refunded.
DO YOU SCREEN YOUR GUESTS?
Yes we do!
We have a booking process for all guests, with additional steps for single gentlemen to ensure we have a clear understanding of our attendees. This helps us create a secure and enjoyable environment for everyone.
You only need to be verified once. Once you have been verified, you are party ready!
WHAT HAPPENS AT A SWINGERS HOUSE PARTY?
Every night at a party is always different so we recommend you don't come with any expectations and allow the night to flow naturally.
The night can range from a social occasion to a full orgy extravaganza and anything in between.
Our goal as Intemperance Hosts is complete debauchery. Bodies embraced and scattered everywhere but each party welcomes new and different people so the dynamics are ever changing.
Mostly a swingers party is like any other party except we happen to get undressed and some people have sex.
We socialise, we eat, we drink, we laugh, we are silly. We get to know one another. We make friends.
A house party is a different atmosphere than a club. More intimate in our opinion. More like going to a friend's party at their house.
HOW DOES "THE PLAY" START?
Between 8:30pm and 9:30pm is our meet-and-greet time, where guests can relax, connect, and ease into the evening. While play can begin earlier if guests feel comfortable, the night usually unfolds naturally into a play party after dress-down.
We kindly ask single men not to approach the hosts asking, “When does the night start?” The night begins when you walk through the door. Grab a drink, chat with the ladies, couples, and other guests, and enjoy the evening without expectation.
Your hosts are there to support a welcoming, social environment. If you need help starting a conversation, we’re more than happy to assist.
It’s important to remember that sex is never guaranteed—everyone attending a swinger's event has full autonomy over their own body, and connections are based on mutual interest and consent. The best approach is to relax, enjoy the atmosphere, and not focus on any particular outcome. Trust us, everyone will have a much better time this way.
WHAT ARE THE FEATURES OF YOUR HOUSE PARTY? WILL YOU HAVE A SPA? WILL YOU HAVE LOCKERS?
This is a standard house party. It is not a "Venue". Expect either a house or a large apartment/villa/townhouse. Venue may change from time to time depending on availability so ensure to contact us before attending if you have been before as it may not be at the same place as before. We are aiming for the Mulgrave/Oakleigh/Clayton area for consistent location vicinity.
The places we have lined up do not have a spa or lockers.
As this is not a BDSM style party, there are no "features" as such however expect to have a social lounge area and a play room or two (or three depending on location) which will compromise of clean beds, condoms, lube and people with happy dispositions.
WHAT ARE THE EXPECTED NUMBERS?
We don’t provide numbers, as there’s no set limit on attendees—we love having as many people as possible join in! Some nights will be busier than others and it’s natural that a few people may confirm but not show up.
If you’re overly focused on numbers or keep asking how many women will be attending, we may not be the right fit for you. Our parties are about creating a fun, relaxed atmosphere where everyone can enjoy themselves without pressure. Just come with an open mind, and you’ll have a great time!
WHERE CAN I VIEW PHOTOS OF THE VENUE, THE HOSTS OR YOUR PARTIES?
For discretion reasons, there will be no photos of our parties or locations. Privacy and confidentiality are paramount, ensuring a comfortable and secure experience for all involved.
Guests who insist on a photo of Michelle or both hosts may not be the right fit for our parties, as this approach doesn’t align with the atmosphere we cultivate. We prioritize genuine connections and shared experiences over expectations based on appearances. We have provided numerous verified photos on RHP, AMM, SH and Fetlife. Our faces are blurred to maintain our privacy but there should be enough picture for you to get a better understanding of who we are.
I'M NEW TO THE LIFESTYLE. WHAT SHOULD I KNOW?
Make the night what you want the night to be.
We welcome any one new to the scene with no pressure to play ever. Your hosts are very experienced and self aware and will do what we can to ensure you are feeling comfortable and included.
Know your boundaries. What you are and are not willing/wanting to do. It's ok to say no.....even after you have already said yes. If you have said yes and start doing something that doesn't sit right with you, consent can always be withdrawn at any stage (except after the fact).
Never do anything you are not comfortable with or anything you do not want to do to impress anyone. You will regret it later. There should be no pressure. You should always feel comfortable. It is your experience after all remember.
The scene is very respectful. It might surprise you what a wonderful community the swinger scene is. Most know the rules. But like any community, you do get the occasional idiot. Make sure to speak to your hosts immediately if anyone is making you feel uncomfortable.
DO YOU ACCEPT KINK AND BDSM? IMPACT PLAY?
WHAT ABOUT TOYS?
You are encouraged to bring your favourite toy however this is not a Kink/BDSM style party. While a Swingers Party comes with it's own layer of Kink/Kinky/Psychological BDSM play, it is not an impact play/pain inflicting style event.
BDSM Safety Notice. Please note that Intemperance Hosts are not trained in BDSM practices (specifically impact play and anything that causes physical pain) and therefore are unable to monitor or ensure safe BDSM play during the event. All attendees who choose to engage in BDSM activities do so at their own risk. We encourage everyone to prioritize clear communication, enthusiastic consent, and safety in all interactions. Intemperance Host will be available shall you come to us with a complaint and will manage this accordingly.
I HAVE A SPECIAL REASON I NEED MY PHONE ON ME. IS THIS OK?
Please speak to your hosts if you need to have your phone on you for any reason throughout the night and we will see what solution we can come up with. Given the nature of the night and the amount of non-consensual filming being done these days, if you must have your phone on you for any reason then we will probably recommend you trying another night when you do not require your phone so close.
Your hosts will have a phone on them all night for business purposes however no one else should need their phone at a social swingers party.
HOW DO YOU MANAGE STI'S
Yes, we have actually had this question a fair bit from concerned citizens so feel we need to add it to our FAQ page.
Yes, condoms are required for sex at our parties—unless a woman clearly consents otherwise. At that point, it is then your choice how you would like proceed.
We’re all adults. If you're engaging in non-monogamy or group play, regular STI testing (3–4 times a year) is everyone's responsibility regardless if you always use a condom or not. It’s not our job or business to police your sexual health, This is your responsibility. You know the risks. You make the choices. You take the responsibility. Let’s keep it safe and respectful for everyone
WHAT'S YOUR BEST TIP FOR A SINGLE MALE?
One of the most important tips Michelle feels has been lost on the scene since covid: Women who attend whether single or in a couple are Goddesses and Queens. If she does not feel comfortable, sexy and appreciated she will likely not want to play. It is in your best interest to attend as a single male with no noticeable self-interest. You will likely have a much better experience this way. We all know why you are there. Be a gentleman about it.
More tips and info can be located on our Single Men page by CLICKING HERE
